[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you try to reason with a feminist who is stating ‘misandrists are ruining feminism’” Bottom text reads “and you are immediately dismissed as ‘not getting it’, being a ‘bully’, and are subjected to the other feminist holding their education + degree + class over you” End description.]
I’ll be more honest though, it went beyond awkward and became uncomfortable, upsetting, and triggering. I’ve always had times where I question labeling myself “feminist” due to the treatment I get from the feminists in the Ivory Tower, or the ones who worship at the base of the Ivory Tower. I feel so excluded, so often. The silencing techniques they use, “You shouldn’t be so aggressive,” “You shouldn’t be so angry,” “People would listen to your needs if you’d calm down and be nicer,” “There’s no excuse for anger at the majority,” etc. None of it is helpful, but it certainly pushes me out.
I still care about liberation, equality/fairness, and trying to be as intersectional as possible - but right now, these Ivory Tower intellectuals have left me feeling hurt and defeated—-definitely feeling unwanted within “their” world. More and more, it feels like it is “their” world.
(Another issue I had with this was the feminist in question is cis, but felt a need to preach to me about trans issues, after they already got defensive about how they didn’t like the word “cis” because “normal” people didn’t need a word to let people know they are “non-trans*”.)

[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you try to reason with a feminist who is stating ‘misandrists are ruining feminism’” Bottom text reads “and you are immediately dismissed as ‘not getting it’, being a ‘bully’, and are subjected to the other feminist holding their education + degree + class over you” End description.]

I’ll be more honest though, it went beyond awkward and became uncomfortable, upsetting, and triggering. I’ve always had times where I question labeling myself “feminist” due to the treatment I get from the feminists in the Ivory Tower, or the ones who worship at the base of the Ivory Tower. I feel so excluded, so often. The silencing techniques they use, “You shouldn’t be so aggressive,” “You shouldn’t be so angry,” “People would listen to your needs if you’d calm down and be nicer,” “There’s no excuse for anger at the majority,” etc. None of it is helpful, but it certainly pushes me out.

I still care about liberation, equality/fairness, and trying to be as intersectional as possible - but right now, these Ivory Tower intellectuals have left me feeling hurt and defeated—-definitely feeling unwanted within “their” world. More and more, it feels like it is “their” world.

(Another issue I had with this was the feminist in question is cis, but felt a need to preach to me about trans issues, after they already got defensive about how they didn’t like the word “cis” because “normal” people didn’t need a word to let people know they are “non-trans*”.)

4 months ago  #awkward feminist moments #awkward #img #submission  5 notes

i'm bowling for abortions!

hi awkward feminists! yeas here. i wanted to tell you about something really exciting i’m doing in april that i think you’ll be interested in, and i need your help!

i’m bowling with team gsexxxy and the national abortion access bowl-a-thon to raise money for richmond reproductive freedom project, the only active abortion fund in the state of virginia that provides several services to virginians in need of abortions. learn more about them here.

my personal fundraising goal is currently $400, and every dollar counts. rrfp estimates that, each month, up to $2,000 is needed to assist their clients. by donating to this event, your gift will make an immediate difference in the lives of people in virginia.

if you can, please consider making a tax-deductible donation on my personal fundraising page here: http://bit.ly/marklebowl. if not, signal boost!

thank you! <3

1 year ago  #awkward feminist moments #feminism #txt #yeas #abortion #pro-choice #national abortion access bowl-a-thon #rrfp #richmond reproductive freedom project #team gsexxxy  5 notes
[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when someone says something super shitty and you go blank” Bottom text reads “because you can&#8217;t decide whether to educate them gently or tear them apart” End description.]
i usually decide i can&#8217;t deal with it and do this instead

[Image description: Karen from Will &amp; Grace chugging down a bottle of vodka. End Description] - yeas
submit your awkward moments!

[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when someone says something super shitty and you go blank” Bottom text reads “because you can’t decide whether to educate them gently or tear them apart” End description.]

i usually decide i can’t deal with it and do this instead

image

[Image description: Karen from Will & Grace chugging down a bottle of vodka. End Description] - yeas

submit your awkward moments!

1 year ago  #feminism #awkward feminist moments #lol #img #moving gif warning  42 notes
[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you realize the reason you watch so many paranormal reality shows” Bottom text reads “is because everything else is so rife with -isms that you can&#8217;t enjoy anything else” End description.]
anon submission

[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you realize the reason you watch so many paranormal reality shows” Bottom text reads “is because everything else is so rife with -isms that you can’t enjoy anything else” End description.]

anon submission

1 year ago  #img #awkward feminist moments #lol #funny #feminism  8 notes
[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you want to shave your armpits/legs” Bottom text reads “and you feel like a fake feminist and you&#8217;re paranoid you&#8217;ll get called out” End description.]
"if you&#8217;re a feminist then WHY are your armpits shaved?" oh god the amount of times i&#8217;ve gotten this. - anon submission
#hairlessfeministproblems

[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you want to shave your armpits/legs” Bottom text reads “and you feel like a fake feminist and you’re paranoid you’ll get called out” End description.]

"if you’re a feminist then WHY are your armpits shaved?" oh god the amount of times i’ve gotten this. - anon submission

#hairlessfeministproblems

1 year ago  #awkward feminist moments #awkward #feminist #lol #funny #img  29 notes
[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you&#8217;re pulling out your hair and screaming” Bottom text reads “Why is Feminism™ so shitty?” End description.]
my definition of Feminism™: theory and praxis that deals primarily with white, middle class women&#8217;s issues/concerns and ignores/silences intersectionality and race issues and (dis)ability issues and trans* issues and queer issues and so many other issues and it&#8217;s just so WHITE AND SHITTY. - yeas

[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when you’re pulling out your hair and screaming” Bottom text reads “Why is Feminism™ so shitty?” End description.]

my definition of Feminism™: theory and praxis that deals primarily with white, middle class women’s issues/concerns and ignores/silences intersectionality and race issues and (dis)ability issues and trans* issues and queer issues and so many other issues and it’s just so WHITE AND SHITTY. - yeas

1 year ago  #issues #feminism™ #awkward feminist moments #lol #funny #img #feminism #white feminism  18 notes
[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when” Bottom text reads “you actually find a sexist joke funny” End description.]
And you try so hard not to laugh but you can&#8217;t stop yourself. - just-rise-again
I sometimes laugh at sexist (and other fucked up -ist jokes) simply because, within the span of seconds, I&#8217;m analyzing the shit out of it and it&#8217;s making my brain do too many things at once so I&#8217;m like HAAwaaaait. That was fucked up. Fuck you. - yeas

[Image description: Background is 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground is a picture of a grey tabby cat wearing a yellow wig. Top text reads “That awkward moment when” Bottom text reads “you actually find a sexist joke funny” End description.]

And you try so hard not to laugh but you can’t stop yourself. - just-rise-again

I sometimes laugh at sexist (and other fucked up -ist jokes) simply because, within the span of seconds, I’m analyzing the shit out of it and it’s making my brain do too many things at once so I’m like HAAwaaaait. That was fucked up. Fuck you. - yeas

1 year ago  #awkward feminist moments #awkward #img #submission  14 notes